Start with your non-negotiables — immediate family and closest friends. Then work outward. Decide on a firm maximum based on venue capacity and budget. Create an A-list and B-list; as A-list declines come in, you can invite from the B-list.

Be consistent with categories: if you invite one cousin, consider inviting all. Communicate decisions diplomatically and early. Remember: a smaller, more intimate wedding often means better experience for everyone.